Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Here we go again...

That's right, we'll be welcoming baby #2 on or around April 26, 2014 (the day before my birthday), which makes me just over 4 weeks pregnant. I went back and forth about announcing this early. It seems like every baby book and website insists that you wait until 12 weeks to announce your pregnancy. It's still a sensitive time, and anything can happen. In a way, this makes it seem as though miscarriage is something women should be ashamed about and feel the need to hide. I disagree with this outlook. If I were to suffer through a loss, I would want the support from friends and family. I would want to be able to use this blog as an outlet to cope, and possibly help other women going through the same thing. That's one reason I decided to announce today.

The other is I simply couldn't wait eight more weeks. I'm terrible at keeping surprises. What's funny is that my husband has been dying to announce, and he's usually better about secrets than I am. So we decided to do it today.

I know there are a lot of questions that friends and family members will have. No, we weren't supposed to get pregnant in Africa. Yes, I do have access to a clinic here for basic things like blood work, etc. No, I'm not sure whether I'll be flown to Europe for my first trimester screening or be sent back to the United States. Hopefully I'll have these questions answered over the next couple of weeks. I'm going to try not to stress about it because I know either way I'll be taken care of.

I'm looking forward to my second pregnancy journey and all that comes with it.
I'm so stoked that my little family is growing and that Eva will be a big sister.
 I'm a bit bummed I won't be tasting wine in Italy next week, though. Hah.
Wish me luck!
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3 comments:

  1. Hi, first off, congrats on your pregnancy! I hope it's going to be a fabulous journey. :)

    I wanted to react to what you wrote: "In a way, this makes it seem as though miscarriage is something women should be ashamed about and feel the need to hide.". I have to disagree because it's not shame that we feel. I've been through this: I wanted to wait the 12 weeks but as things turned out, we announced our pregnancy at 7 weeks and less than a week later, my doctor told me I'd have a miscarriage. Going through your own feelings of loss is excruciating and painful but seeing the disappointed in our parents' eyes was the worst thing. Of course support from family and friends is good but sentences like 'you're young, you'll get pregnant again', 'it happens often for the first pregnancy', 'you'll be pregnant next time' etc. are not always what you want to hear at the time. Especially if you need time to process it when you've been trying for a looooong time (3 years then, now 4).

    But then again, to each person, their story. And seeing the evolution of your pregnancy through the first 13 weeks is oh so lovely. You family is adorable and I'm grateful that you shared your journey as it gives me hope. :)

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    1. I hope you didn't misunderstand me! I'm not trying to tell you what you feel or should be feeling, I'm just saying what I perceive the underlying message to be when I read things that say not to tell people until 12 weeks. I know it must be one of the most difficult things anyone will ever have to experience, but the fact is that 1 in 4 women will experience this in their lifetime. Maybe women would have an easier time dealing with their loss if miscarriage was more normalized instead of encouraged to be hidden all the time. But you're, right, I've never experienced it before so I don't know. This is just my opinion as an outsider looking in,

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  2. I know this is an old post but I enjoy your blog and I really like what you said about it appearing like most women are ashamed of their miscarriages and feel the need to hide them. We miscarried on Christmas Day this past year and I did hide it... From all friends and most family and certainly my blog. I just announced it on my blog today though and it felt like a weight had been lifted. I kept it light but just getting it out there felt like I gave that baby the respect and acknowledgment it deserved. Thank you for this one!

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I've been taking a while to reply lately, but I love reading each and every one of your comments. Thanks so much!

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